Creating Upstate Mary has been a wild, beautiful ride — rooted in real life, real bodies, real healing, and the belief that pleasure, comfort, and connection are essentials — not extras.
A new year doesn’t ask us to become someone new — just to return to ourselves with more care and curiosity.
Thank you for inviting us into your routines, your bedrooms, and your wellness rituals. It’s an honor to be part of your journey back to yourself.
P.S. Our entire site is 50% off — Discount auto-applied at checkout. (NOTE: Friday Arousal Oil Mini not included in sale).
At Upstate Mary, we believe in the power of plants. We don't mess around when it comes to pleasure. That’s why we take serious pride in crafting our products with 100% all-natural and organic ingredients. Say goodbye to weird fragrances or ingredients with names you can't pronounce. Treat yourself to products that nourish the body and awaken the senses while boosting arousal and lubrication during your most intimate moments.
MCT COCONUT OIL
A natural moisturizer that has been used for centuries. It is also prized for its antimicrobial and antibacterial properties.
FULL SPECTRUM HEMP CBD
A non-psychoactive compound found in cannabis that has been shown to reduce inflammation, tension and pain. Sexual benefits may include heightened arousal and increased lubrication.
JOJOBA OIL
A soothing natural moisturizer that is anti-inflammatory and can improve blood circulation.
CACAO ABSOLUTE
Derived from the cacao bean, with a rich chocolaty aroma and aphrodisiac properties.
Dear Cancer, I'm Beautiful
A podcast to inspire, educate and empower cancer thrivers.
Dear Cancer, I'm Beautiful is the first podcast of its kind to bridge the gap between life-saving cancer treatment and fashion, beauty and wellness advice. Host Melissa Berry is a veteran and fashion publicist, twelve-year Triple Negative Breast Cancer thriver and founder of CancerFashionista.com.
Gynocurious
Welcome Gynocurious listeners! Dr. Amy Novatt is a board certified ob-gyn and your host of GynoCurious. Explore the experience of being an ob-gyn, the science that guides our practices and the stories women- cis, trans and nonbinary, have shared as they seek health and wellness. From both sides of the speculum, we will investigate what it means to be a healer and to be healed.
Luxury Meets...
Global business leaders tell their personal stories of chasing excellence across industries like health, wellness, beauty, travel, sport, hospitality, culinary, beverage, retail, cannabis, design, and more. Hosted by Jed Wexler, founder of NYC's famed invite-only B2B wellness event, The Luxury Meets Cannabis Conference (LMCC).
Why CBD Lube?
Full-spectrum CBD-infused oils and suppositories are designed to enhance your intimate wellness by increasing blood flow, relaxing pelvic muscles, and easing discomfort during sex. Our intimacy collection is thoughtfully crafted to meet diverse needs—from tackling painful penetration and boosting circulation to providing daily lubrication and postpartum care. These CBD-infused products are more than a quick fix; they're reliable companions for your daily self-care routine. From personal moisturizers to pleasure enhancers, we're here to support your journey to greater comfort and connection.
Read MoreFarm to Bedroom™
Upstate Mary understands the importance of knowing where your CBD comes from and how it’s been grown. That's why we've proudly partnered with a women-owned, organic + multigenerational farm in upstate New York to source the finest single-origin, full spectrum CBD for our intimacy product line. It's our commitment to you and that makes us proudly Farm to Bedroom™.
WE GIVE BACK
In the United States, someone dies from breast cancer every 14 minutes. This number has not decreased significantly in nearly 40 years despite a huge movement to raise awareness and funds for breast cancer research. Upstate Mary goes beyond pleasure-it's also rooted in personal experiences. As a breast cancer survivor + mom, our Co-Founder understands the challenges of hormonal changes and sexual dysfunction. We're passionate about helping others to rediscover pleasure and connection, whether alone or with a partner. Upstate Mary donates to the National Breast Cancer Foundation with every purchase.
purchase for a changeSUSTAINABILITY
Upstate Mary supports One Tree Planted as part of our commitment to sustainability. One Tree Planted is a non-profit organization focused on global reforestation. Together we can restore forests, create habitat for biodiversity and make a positive social impact around the world. Upstate Mary donates to One Tree Planted with every purchase. One tree planted with every dollar donated.
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